5 Fun & Easy Ways To Get Out Of The Rut

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5 Fun & Easy Ways to Get Out of the Rut
By Steve Errey

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel less than great. Low,
grouchy, fed-up and bored are all words you could use to describe what I’m
like on those days. Thing is, days like those are part of the deal with
being human – it’s not an elective. There will always be off days, and
that’s okay.

But what happens when you get a whole string of those off-days, maybe
lasting weeks, months or even years? Too many of us say that we’re in some
kind of rut, feel stuck, fed-up or bored and admit that we don’t want
things to be that way but that we don’t know what to do to change things.
That’s the problem, when you’re in a rut you don’t have the energy or
motivation to change things for the better, and it’s tough to find the
insight or resources you need to make that jump.

Here are five fun and easy ways you can use right now to climb, or better
yet, leap out of the rut and start to get something better for yourself.

1. Do Something Differently

Life tends to run smoothly when we establish systems and routines for
things, but the problem comes when things run too smoothly and we become
blinded to any ideas, choices or that sit outside of our routine. All the
stuff we do every day becomes the norm, runs on auto-pilot and becomes our
whole world.

Start with making one or two simple changes to your day - be it at
breakfast time, your radio station, gym routine, route to work, lunch
routine, etc. Don’t worry about what the changes are or whether they’re
right or wrong, just make a couple of simple choices that will serve you
well.

Doing something differently or changing parts of your routine instantly
takes you out of the norm and allows you to shake off the things that make
you feel confined. Step out of your routine and you’ll be in a position
where you’re able to make different choices, see things differently and
get a different result.

2. Use Your Intuition

Your intuition is a powerful ally, and we all have it even though you
might not recognise it. The dictionary says that intuition is:

-- (a) The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of
rational processes; immediate cognition. (b) Knowledge gained by the use
of this faculty; a perceptive insight.
-- A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.

One of the best friends you'll ever have in life is your intuition, and
tuning into it and learning to trust it is something that can have some
truly remarkable effects. Accessing your intuition is a bit like working
and developing a muscle, but unfortunately it can be harder to locate than
a bicep or quadricep, which tend to stay in the same place. Here are some
quick tips for accessing and trusting it:

-- Practice maintaining an open-minded, playful, experimental,
non-judgmental attitude. This is the most fertile ground to tap into your
intuition.
-- Practice making wild guesses in your everyday life. Guess what a
salesperson's name is, what a new person or place will look like or who's
calling on the phone. Don't worry about getting it wrong, you're just
working that muscle.
-- Try a few simple observation exercises in your daily life. Whether
you're in a restaurant, on a train, in a bar or out shopping, practice
noticing non-verbal behavior in others. Look for shifts in posture, eye
movements, vocal tone or tempo, etc. Guess how they're feeling or what
they're talking about.

3. Nourishment

Imagine you’re walking home from the supermarket with a couple of bags of
groceries, but those bags have holes in them. You’re walking along merrily
leaving a trail of your things behind you, but when you get home you
unpack what’s left and ask, ‘Didn’t I have more than this?’

Nourishment is about plugging those holes in your life and making sure you
have things in your life that keep you feeling nourished – nourished in
your head, nourished in your heart and nourished in your stomach. Remember
that you can’t give away what you don’t have, and can’t spend energy
you’ve already spent.

It doesn’t have to be the big things in life that nourish you and it’s
often the simplest little thing that strikes a chord, makes you feel like
yourself again or makes you smile from ear to ear – calling a friend,
talking a walk in the park or listening to your favourite song for
example. So what keeps you balanced? What relaxes you or makes you feel
peaceful? What makes you feel like you again?

The fact is that you’re important enough to spend time taking care of and
it doesn’t matter what it is, just take the time to do it. If necessary,
go as far as booking time in your diary. You’re the only one of you there
is, so it’s your responsibility to make sure you’re okay.

4. Perfect Day

Here’s something to play with – your Perfect Day. This idea came to me a
few years ago when a good friend suddenly asked me ‘What would be your
perfect day?’ I’d never been asked that before and I found myself
spontaneously making up a story – telling her about my Perfect Day from
the moment my eyes flickered open to the moment my head hit the pillow.

I went through each part of the day telling her what I was doing, who I
was with, where we were, how it felt and what happened next. Bit by bit
and without even thinking about it, I’d put together a rich, colourful,
exciting and comforting day, which still holds true as my Perfect Day. The
best part is that you can start introducing little bits of your Perfect
Day into your real life or working to make some of it happen. For example,
in part of my Perfect Day I visit a company where I’m helping the
directors and employees to focus on their strengths and to create a
environment where people love to work and can be their best – and that was
even before I knew that there was such a thing as coaching or that I could
be a coach. My Perfect Day has now become like a good friend of mine who I
can call on whenever I want to.

So what’s your Perfect Day? Don’t think too much about it and don’t worry
about it sounding silly or too grand. Just shoot from the hip and see what
comes out naturally for you. Write down words, ideas, themes or a whole
narrative – even draw pictures if you want to. Have fun with it, play with
it – it’s your Perfect Day.

5. Get Some Fun, Fulfillment and Freedom

The Three F’s – Fun, Fulfillment and Freedom - encompass a lot of what
people are looking for in life, and also contain the solutions to having,
doing and being those things. Here are some definitions:

-- Fun, n. - A source of enjoyment or pleasure; playful activity.
-- Ful-fil'ment, n. - To bring into actuality; to complete; a feeling of
satisfaction at having achieved your desires.
-- Free-dom, n. - The capacity to exercise choice, free will; frankness or
boldness; the absence of constraint in choice or action.

Read those again. Those things are huge, deep and broad, and are a lot
simpler than we make them.

Where are you in relation to each of the Three F’s? How much of each do
you have right now? How much of each do you want? Whatever gap there is
recognise that it can be closed, and that you can close it. What would
things be like if you were to close that gap? What would happen if you
climbed a point or two on the Fun scale? What if you could add a point to
your level of Fulfilment or Freedom? How would that feel? Pretty good,
right? So what one thing can you do right now to help you get more?

By themselves each of the Three F's is a powerful thing, and can really
help to move you forwards, enjoy where you are and feel alive. But when
the Three F's come together... well, just hold on to your hats and keys.

Rut? What rut?

About the Author:
Steve Errey’s free ezine ‘Being More’ shows you proven ways that YOU can
have, do and be more than you thought possible. By signing up you’ll also
receive a special report titled ‘5 Little Secrets Other Coaches Won’t Tell
You’ – visit steveerrey.com now.

Steve Errey specialises in personal growth for thirtysomethings and
coaches thirtysomething singles and couples around their careers,
relationships and confidence. He’s featured widely in national press and
media, writes the 'Thirtysomething Guide to...' series of ebooks, had a
regular coaching slot on BBC Radio and BRMB, as well as having TV shows
for Channel 4 and the BBC. For more information please contact Steve on
0845 644 3001, by email at steve@steveerrey.com or visit his website at
steveerrey.com.